Posted November 20, 2018 09:30:56 In an era where gender fluidity is a mainstream cultural norm, and where gender identity and expression are increasingly being celebrated in mainstream media, it can be hard to find the words to express your love for a boy, girl, or transgender child.
But one person, whose life experience and personal experiences have led to the discovery that a transgender child is no more “born a boy” than a transgender woman is “born trans,” has come up with a new method for understanding the gender identity of a child.
For months, Kaitlyn Ngo, a 26-year-old woman from Philadelphia, has been trying to explain to people the ways in which a child’s gender identity is different from that of the opposite sex.
In her TEDx talk, “The Truth About Gender Identity,” Ngo argues that children are “not born a boy,” and are instead “born with a gender identity that is not male or female.”
According to Ngo and other gender specialists, the only way a child can “identify” as male or woman is by the way they present themselves in the physical world, including in their appearance, speech, and body language.
According to a study published in the journal Gender & Society, children who identify as male often feel anxious and insecure, have difficulty forming and maintaining relationships with others, and exhibit a high degree of anxiety and depression.
Ngo also believes that gender identity issues, particularly those related to gender dysphoria and gender dysphoric children, may be exacerbated in children who do not identify as men.
In Ngo’s case, her gender identity issue was triggered when she was born a male at birth, and was later diagnosed with gender dysphorian disorder, a condition in which children identify with the opposite gender.
According the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, gender dysphorians experience severe distress and distress-related distress, or “a sense of being rejected, hurt, or excluded,” and also suffer from a severe lack of self-esteem.
According Ngo:Ngo, who identifies as female, first came to the attention of the family of her mother, who has also transitioned, after her mother had attempted suicide.
NGo and her mother met at a transgender conference, and Ngo was initially able to identify as a girl at that time.
After Ngo completed high school, Ngo came to identify with a boy’s body, and at her high school graduation, she had a gender marker on her birth certificate, which was later removed, so she could continue to live as a boy.
As a result of her transition, NGo underwent several surgeries to get her breasts, genitalia, and hair to match her body, but Ngo says that these surgeries did not change her gender expression, and that the gender dysphorias were still there.
However, Nga has since transitioned and is now a woman, and she and her family have never felt excluded from her daughter’s school.
Ngo says she has also encountered a lot of support from her peers.
“When you transition and you get a new gender marker, people can come out and talk to you,” she said.
“I’m not the only one that does it.”
In addition to her TED talk, Ngano has also appeared on “The View” and on “CBS This Morning,” as well as appearing in the “Kiss Me” series, where she spoke to “CBS Tonight” anchor Lesley Stahl.
In addition, Nagano has written books and is also working on a book of essays about gender identity titled “Boys Don’t Wear Nipples.”
Ngo’s TEDx Talk, “Transgender and Gender Identity: Understanding the Body,” has received more than 1.3 million views since it was published online in January, and it has already been shared more than 400,000 times on social media.